Being a Dad is hard job and most men know that to be true. Not that it isn’t satisfying, as quite clearly it makes us feel more complete and gives us a real purpose in this world; but everything always work out how we planned it. As such there are a lot of dads out there who end up alone having to look after their child following a separation with their partner; but this doesn’t mean that single Dads have to stay single all their lives.

Return to dating

The truth of the matter is that there are many reasons why it is hard to get back into dating when you are a single parent. Time for one thing is probably the thing we never seem to have. Too busy at work during the day then too busy in the evenings with the children; we often just lack the time to meet new partners. The good news however is that dating has really changed over the years thanks to the internet; and meeting new people doesn’t take as much time as it used to.

So the best thing you can do is to browse the web at first and look around at different dating websites. There are many to choose from; some specialising in serious relationships whilst others are more centred on people having a bit of casual fun. There are also dating sites which deal with single parents; both male and female. There you might find someone closer to you own heart who understands what you are going through.

No rush

You might be looking for love or you could be thinking: “I want to find sex near me”; but no matter what you want you should always do things at your own pace; so don’t let anyone rush you around. The more you take your time the better you will understand how online dating works. At first take the time to look at those different sites and pick the one that you think suits you best. Most dating sites will not charge you for a basic membership so you should be able to browse the site and its members for free; no need to pay for that. If you like what you see then you will need to pay a fee so that you can use the site’s full functionalities (like contacting other members). Even if you take your time, online dating still is way faster than going out to meet people in social places; you can do it from your computer whilst still being indoors with the kids.

Just be you

Ultimately dating is a very emotional endeavour; especially for those who have suffered breakups and past hardship in their relationships. As such single dads can carry quite a lot of baggage with them. It is important to remember not to project how your previous relationship treated you onto your new partner. In that context the best you can do is to tell that person about your past; it will help them understand you and deal with you better. Remember that you’re not the only one with a past; we have all had things happening to us. Putting all your emotional baggage on one side might help you to reach out to others and to trust them more. So just keep your brain together; keep things simple and just be yourself. It is important that your potential partners accept you for who you are; and it is essential that they accept that you have a child which will always be more important to you. Just take it one day at a time and you will eventually be ready to accept others in your life.

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